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  1. wescoasplaya

    wescoasplaya Porn Surfer

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    We are men

    We go through spells just like women, the bottom line is are you sexually frustrated enough to call it quits? Have you tried just casually bringing up things that you like sexually? Ive been with my wife for 8 years all together and I still find out new things about each others sexual preferences, and we have a lot of sex. Do you have kids? Does he have the same job/work responsabilities? And now for the touchy part, could he be doing the freaky stuff somewhere else? Sorry but it is something to think about especially if you are apart alot. Either way good luck hope it works out.

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  2. OI814U2

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    My wife and I, well, sometimes we make love, sometimes we have hot wild sex, She's not as adventurist as I would like, but it works. Discuss and try it with your hubby.
     
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  3. ffocus

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    First of all i am younger than the age of your husband, so i may sound more adventurous, but if i were your husband, i would want to know about some stories of your past, and the way you describe your past i would ask you to make the past present and future and ask you to invite your girlfriend, but that is me.

    About the site, i do not suggest telling him. he might think that you are seeing anyone else since you say he is not that adventurous...

    Hope i have been helpful.
     
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  4. mt692007

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    so, what ever happened?
     
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  5. RichmondVA

    RichmondVA Amateur

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    He is probably on here and wanking off all the time.
     
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  6. crabmeat

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    I think the fact that he aggressively avoids hearing about our sexual past is key. It seems to indicate that he's intimidated, or in some other way "put off" by your sexuality. Hence the lack of adventurous sex with him.

    I think this is a fairly common problem, and therefor it's a problem that a good couples therapist should be able to help the two of you with.
     
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  7. mouledaw

    mouledaw Porn Surfer Suspended!

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    cooooool
     
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  9. Lowlandriders

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    Did anything else change in your relationship that coincided with his lessened desire for an exciting sexlife?
    There may be outside factors you didn't account for.
    Men are creatures of pride, it may be something he doesn't want to talk about or know about simply because his pride gets in the way.
    I can think of quite a few reasons why a man would be less inclined to have sex, or have more vigorous sex.
    With the little info you have given any of the following reasons could be resulting in the lack of bedroom action that you speak of.
    * he's afraid he won't life up to your previous experiences
    * health reasons
    * changes at work, more of it or stress
    Anyway, honesty is always the best way to go but like any other instrument, the way you handle it determines the results.
    Therapy might be an idea, like some mentioned before, if things get worse or stay the same for too long.
    In my experience, blunt force truth rarely gives you the result you are looking for unless you intend to hurt the other.

    My two cents, hope it helps

    Just saw the original post date :eek: .. sorry if its way too late ;)
     
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  10. jandk

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    Share this site with him. It may make him more open to your wants. My wife and I post and surf together and many times it has led to great sex afterwards.
     
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  11. Lookn4awillin1

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    I so want to shove you to the sheets and straddle you pinned, let you feel my swollen cock drippin between your ass cheeks, throbbing ridge tight to your flesh, bulbous head hot and ready. Lean in and bite your shoulder, press my weight upon you, whisper wicked in your ear, tell you all my depraved wants. Unroll my tongue and lick the length of your spine downward, hands clutching and spreading your cheeks, hot breath fogging your soft skin, driving you to shiver and squirm. Your puckered star so tempting, my nasty tongue so wanting, rim and swirl my dirty girl to glisten, hear you whine delight and raise your ass in offer to my desire. Probing your tight, hand reaching around hip and past pelvis, cup your juicy mound and finger your swelling button, slide into your drip as I lick your ass in frenzy. Turn your whine to squeal with finger in cunt and thumb pressing pucker, a pop of your band pulling shudder and writhe and deep inhale. Your stiff nippled tits heaving to mash of mattress, you biting lower lip, reeling with sensations and soaring of senses. You raise hips off the sheets and pull knees toward your chest, buns up kneeling and loving the dual intrusions, the flick of my tongue, the bite of your cheek in suckled wreath of sweet flesh. My nostrils flair to your heavenly sexual aroma, my ears keen to your ever changing pitch, your guttural moans, your body flexing with quiver. Working folds and button, loosening ass with thumb, lapping all the juice that you create, savoring all...

    That is the kind of man I am.
     
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  12. AP28

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    I think being his Wife and for however many years its been will surely take some "adventure" away from the sex. As much as you may love eachother lets be honest, he's probably just going through the motions at this point.

    You'll have to slap him around and take some initiative to make things more exciting. Add some foreplay, be more naughty and take control. Do something drastic and surprising. I wont get into what you should or shouldnt do. Just do what you feel is right. But the dirtier the better I think.
     
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  13. KingGeek

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    As one poster said, ease into each instance of something that you want to try. Just an example, since I don't know the particulars of what the two of you do or don't do.

    Say you are giving him a blow job and one of the things you want him to do is cum in your mouth. You know he has done that with other women, but hasn't/won't with you. You obviously know when he is close to cumming, so just take a little pause and say "I really would love for you to cum in my mouth this time or I want to taste your cum this time"

    Say he is taking you from behind but not anal and that is something you want to experience. When he takes a break, slows down, etc Just tell him there is some lube on the night stand (already strategically placed there) and be honest about what you want.

    I don't think you need a long drawn out conversation on the living room couch or need a confrontation with him. Just ease into the things you want him to do to you. Don't be scared of that part.

    Now, if you are talking about changing your lifestyle into being swingers, big time BDSM, or he doesn't take the above hints or balks at them, then you might need that bigger longer conversation.

    Leave your past in the past.

    As far as the site goes, if the two of you enjoy porn together, talking dirty, etc then I see no reason not to tell him. I am not sure how much of a 'prude' you are talking about, so that's harder to judge.

    Finally, if it's just sex drive you are talking about. The man is 40. At the very least, I would discuss with him getting his testosterone level checked. That can start to plummet for men around 40 and it's greatly tied to his sex drive. The more out of shape he is, the more he is likely to have issues of that nature. If that's a factor, join a gym together. You can point out the hot young girls to him and he can point out the hot young guys to you. Then the two of you can go home, be completely monogamous and fuck each others brains out. At least, that's what my wife and I do. <grin> If you tend to like girls too or are even bi-curious (as my wife is) don't neglect telling him which girls you would like to experiment with. That turns me on every time my wife does it.
     
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  14. MrRTrent

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    This whole post is fantastic, very honest and genuine. i have been in a similar position my partner whom i love very much works very hard and is busy all the time leaving very little time for sex it kind of gets forgotten about (work, kids, sleep and sex in that order). Which is why a came back to this forum its not that i want a full hidden relationship i just miss flurting and talking about sex. My advice is Not to tell him about your past and try to introduce new sexual activities slowly e.g pretend you had a dream about whatever never thought about it but want to it.
    You should also make sure there is no underlying problem like depresion or another condition. all the best hope it goes well :) :) :)
     
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  15. peckerwood316

    peckerwood316 Porno Junky

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    Be honest with both the past this site, the fact that you want to try new things, sorry to say this but better to know now if he is not willing to try new things with you or not. If not you leave and find someone else to be with that your more compatible with, or stay with him and be miserable.
     
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  16. wiloway

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    very interesting ... I was almost the complete opposite ... when I got married i wanted to try everything I had ever read about ... my now ex- wasn't quite as adventerous as I was ... but now I have found a young lady that will try anything I suggest once ... and again if she enjoys it. Try it like one of the other guys said ... this is very nice ... but how about we try it this way... see what happens?

    Good luck
     
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  17. GmanXXX

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    Because you respect your wife and I suspect that is also why he does not want to know about your past. Not because hes intimidated and has problems like others have mentioned here. I think he does not want to tarnish who you are to him with shit from the past. I have said the same thing to girls I actually wanted to care about I could care less about who or what they fucked previously I dont want to hear about that shit.

    With flings, gf's, short timers, etc while guys are younger they just treat em like trash (not all guys) because they are not looking to settle down and for the most part could care less. I dont want to start shoving bananas and winebottles in my wifes ass if she asked me to (I probably would with a one niter :smile) - I would probably kinda think less about my wife a bit if she were to ask me that.

    If you are thinking about letting him know how you feel (which I think you should...afterall he is your husband) dont just say "honey I want you to beat the crap out of me while wearing a mask" just maybe start out with a little cute pink whip at first and go from there. You know, not dive straight into the deep end kind of thing.

    Kinda rambled there for a second, but would it piss ME off? Maybe, depends on my wife and the kind of relationship we have.
     
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  18. GmanXXX

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    FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!
    Someone bumped up an old ass post!
     
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  19. Torodon

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    Maybe a mistake

    Don't mistake being a prude for getting too comfortable. Maybe he is just getting older and used to his wife. Sometimes the fantasy leaves because we get so used to each other. But I like to think there is still hope that some spark may get rekindled.

    Take it from a man that has "talked" to his wife way too many times about how much she is coming up short in our sexual relationships. But everytime I seem to just pounce on her and tie her to the bed, for some reason the sex that night is awesome. She will start putting out a little more effort then, and things get a little better for a short time. Now the difference between you and me is that your man used to be super sexual...my wife never has been. So if i can get my non-sexual wife fired up, imagine what you can get to happen with your horn dog of a husband.

    Seduce the man in a super naughty way...that's my suggestion.
     
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