My girlfriend has had a few boyfriends in the past, while she is my first one so i could use some help here. Im 20 and shes 21 and we've agreed to not have sex for a while but we do fool around. When we started dating, for the first three months or so, she was ready to fool around anytime, asking me when my roommate was in class, telling me when her roommate was out or home for the weekend or even asking to sneak in the shower with me.

We've now been dating 7 months and any form of a sex drive for her has seen to have totally evaporated into thin air. When we do fool around, she says how much she enjoys it and how amazing she thinks it is and I believe her. But now my roommate can go home for a whole weekend and it seems like the biggest hassle to try to get her in the mood to fool around.

She constantly teases me everyday 24/7, between grabbing me when i get out of the shower or calling me over if shes changing, it drives me nuts having unimaginable amounts of erections in the same day caused by her. But then the instant I go to fool around more, all of a sudden its not okay and im being told "noo stop, not right now"

It's barely been half a year. We now fool around once every 2-3 weeks as apposed to 2-3 times a week when we started. I dunno what to do or how to even bring up a conversation pertaining to the issue but its really starting to bug the hell out of me.

Dont misunderstand me, I'm crazy about her and i would stay with her even if there was no sex or fooling around ever involved, but its just driving me nuts being teased so much throughout my week with no hope of fooling around for several weeks.

 

well Im not a female as you asked for, but the truth in the matter is shes fuckin someone else so dump the tease and move on. I say this from experience I had a girlfriend do this and she was fuckin around behind my back. SORRY

 

Have you tried talking to her about this, at all?

 

yep , wether she's fucking around or not,
afraid she's just not really into you.
Your just convienient and comfortable.
Seriously suggest you cut your losses n move on before it becomes a lot more painfull.

and I do suspect she either has gal pals ,new toys , or other playmates.
at 21 unlikely to have a diminished libido, so she's bored with you and getting something elsewhere.

 

Yeah, I'd have to say you should talk to her before jumping to conclusions about who's fucking who.

 

This is so foreign to me I have no idea!!! I mean it's sex!!! Why is she guarding it like she has the only pussy on the planet!!!! Unless she is just using you and getting sex else where!!!! And I didn't know there were guys that would put up with this!!!
I don't know what day the calender has to hit for her to say "Bong, let's have sex!!!" But I think your silly if you think that's going to happen!!!
Showers together and no sex!!!!!!
I think you're a sucker!!!!

 

I agree....I don't usually use terminology like this to describe members of my own sex, but this girl sounds like your basic cock-tease!

 

dude your 20 years old, move on, she is playing mind games with you and you are playing right into it. tell her it's been fun but it's time to fly. Bet when you bring that up she will want to paly again, at least for awhile. my opion like i already said, move on dude your twenty years old and way too young to play those kinds of games. actually any age is too young to play those kinds of games. :???:

 

Noone elses seems to have pointed out, that you sound like the sweetest guy in the world.
But, your girlfriends a cock tease yeah, but don't just assume she's gone off you from what these guys are saying, you need to either subtle hint that you need to stop being teased so much OR just be upfront about it and ask her whats going on.. at your age she should want you non stop.. She can't pick and choose its unfair on you. xx
:rose:

 

I agree with this guy. The only way you're going to get a straight answer about it from her is if you are direct and upfront with her yourself.

You say something like, "What's up with you not giving up the pussy any more? If I want to hang out with somebody and not get laid I'll call my grandpa and go fishing."

 

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Did you say she was always ready when there were people around,maybe the fact of gettin caught makes her hotter

 

I actually tried to think about this from all angles and finally I decided that I agree with the consensus.

Unless she really doesn't like sex (which IS possible---in which case she used it just to hook you), she is a real jerk who is playing you on a line and probably laughing at you behind your back. She may or may not be banging someone else, but the way she treats you, if you continue to take it, YOU'RE the jerk.

I agree that you should talk to her about it, but don't let her twist you around. Talk to her, but make it clear that if you are in a "more-than-friends" relationship, sex is a must. If she is not into that, then you are moving on.

Honestly, the way she has acted, I wouldn't even want her for a friend.

 

let me tell you my friend. i just had a girlfriend of two years. i am 19 now. and i took her virginity. i loved this girl very much and still do (just broke up a week ago). and her sex drive was terrible. when we were fucking she would say stuff like. i wonder if i left my wallet in the car. stuff like that. and i would get really pissed. but i put up with it because i loved her. i always thought it would get better. it never did. some people just dont have the best sex drive. and chances are if you have found your way on to this site, you have an extremely high one. think to yourself, if she is like this at the age of 20, what will the sex be like at 40? and if you dont think you can put up with less now, it will only get harder. cut it loose and find someone who satisfies you or just have fun being single. you are only 20 years old. dont get caught up in it

 

I agree with what someone said earlier, you're comfortable, and she doesn't want comfortable. She's probably looking for exciting, which is exactly what you were when you were first getting to know each other sexually.

I do have a question, though. When you tell her that your roommate is gone for the weekend or whatever, how do you say it to her? If you're saying "Hey, he's gone, come over" then I can kind of get why she might not be into it. Have you tried teasing her? Rubbing her ass or stroking her thighs when you know no one can see you, but when it's also not possible at that moment to have sex?

If you've tried the above and other ways to turn her on (pulling your dick and out saying, "Come and get it" doesn't count) and she's still not having it, and you really care about her, then talk to her about it. If she's not worth it to you to talk to her about it, then move on.

 

I'd say leave the relationship. It isn't doing for you what you want. Find someone who is sexually available and who also meets your other needs, friendship, intelligence, decency, whatever you need. She is not doing the job.

 

I can't know for sure, because I don't know your girlfriend, but maybe she wants you to be more forceful and take charge and that's why she's teasing you to distraction and then shutting you down. Now I'm not saying rape her, but instead of giving up immediately- grab her and kiss her hard while you slip a hand up her shirt and tease a nipple and see if she changes her tune.

 

It's called sexual incompatibility. Leave the relationship. It will not get better, ever.

 

I'd dump her, but then again I am a shallow, sex-addicted bastard :excited:

This girl sounds like a typical prudish female. It ain't going to get any better, if you do start having sex or fooling around again, she'll use it as a weapon or only give it up twice a month....life's too short to waste time on a prude. You're 20 years old, you should be fucking as many women as possible.

 

+1

Text her a sexy little message, saying "Let's meet at (common area). Don't wear panties. I want to play a little game." Or something to that effect. Get a safe word conversation with her. There are many women that like a bit of thrill, of dominance over them. May be worth a shot, it will at least be an interesting conversation. Also, is she on birth control? It can sometimes affect sex drive.